A bit late to the conversation on this, and a lot of perfect things have already been said on the topic, but I’ve been thinking about it and even as someone who has naked pics online and a history of over sharing, there are still things on my phone I wouldn’t want anyone to see.
The motivation behind much of what I do is maintaining and asserting as much power as possible over the way I am portrayed and even consumed by a public that I don’t know.
Even though I don’t know 90% of the people who view/read what I put online, the nature of that work makes them think they know me, often quite well.
This means I deal with strangers asking me personal questions, requesting personal photos, assuming private things about me, and expecting me to react positively to all of that.
The line that divides my private and public lives is often quite faint and a bit twisty, but all you have to do to navigate it is respect me and treat me like a real human being.
Neither celebrity, sex work, nor making the choice to sext with a partner (or a group of people) makes anyone forfeit their right to respect and being treated like a real human being.
So don’t look at leaked or stolen images that people intended to stay private. And don’t blame them or shame them after the fact. Blame and shame the person who violated their privacy and is a total dick and doesn’t understand how to function as a kind and productive member of society without harming and doing real damage to those around them. Fuck.