Recently I noticed that way more dudes* were interacting with me online than women. In the past, it’s been mostly women who comment, reply, reblog. I was confused and annoyed.

Then I realized I’ve been only posting my photography here and reblogging most things over on my other Tumblr. Which means dudes were only ever seeing nakedness and not ever seeing how much I dislike them. Also I haven’t been writing much here, so dudes were only ever seeing nakedness and not an entire human, which I know is hard to do when only presented with photos.


*Don’t make me EYEROLL you


allvirgo asked:

You mentioned loud public shaming as the correct response to witnessing street harassment. What kinds of points do you think are important for us to make as we dress the culprit down the next time we see that kind of shit happening?

zoetica answered:

Thanks for asking!

The balance is found when everyone is safe, but the perpetrators know that harassment will have consequences and stop themselves in the future, in order to avoid such consequences. The key is not to aggravate, but to cause enough of an unpleasantness to leave an impression. Avoid displaying anger and name-calling, and stick to what we all know to be true: catcalling is never a compliment, no one likes to be harassed, harassment is a violation, literally all women ever have been harassed, street harassment scars women for life. The material practically writes itself. 

Trouble is, there is no surefire way of knowing who is the type of asshole to get aggravated and get violent, and this is why most people stay quiet. Be aware that by stepping in, you are choosing to get involved, and that could mean all sorts of bad news. When I see harassment, I choose to get involved. To me, staying silent is nothing less than perpetuating the problem and the worst thing I could do. On a personal note, If you’re an able-bodied dude reading this, I would really, really love it if you would think of intervening as your job as a human. 

There are lots of great resources on the topic I’ll link to after this, but this article, What Men Can Do to Stop Street Harassment, says it best with the short and catchy, Call them out, call them in. I paraphrase and append:

Call out with a short question or statement to give the victim reprieve and remove the perceived social approval of harassment.

Call in by asking questions and initiating dialogue. Sometimes this could mean asking others around how they feel about the perp’s actions, which kills several birds with one stone: more eyes on the situation, more voices to support how shitty harassment is. 

Further reading:

The Road So Far…

Photos and videos from the first three months of my 365 Project.
Music: Chester’s Burst Over the Hamptons by Kishi Bashi

I made this video for my $8+ patrons over at Patreon and then made a trade with them so I could post it here. It’s every picture I’ve taken (plus a bunch of outtakes!) for my 365 Project so far. I post outtakes over at Patreon and also write long rambling posts to go with many of the images (or sometimes they have nothing to do with the image, but that’s okay). 

There are a lot of amazing people using Patreon right now and I’m loving it. You should go check it out if you haven’t yet.