Katie West

“How many of you believe that there is only one person for you in the whole world?

“Well, unfortunately, you’re all wrong. Now, I mean it’s unfortunate that you happen to be wrong, not that it’s unfortunate that there is more than one person for you in the whole world. That’s rather lucky actually. If there truly was only one person, many more of you would die miserable and alone than what will already be.

“No, there are many, many people in the world that are perfect for you in every way.  Physically, mentally, emotionally, even genetically, perfect for you. You think this isn’t true, I can tell, and you think I am wrong because you believe you are unique. But if you think this, you are wrong again. Love, the thing, is easy; we make it complicated because we believe it is a singular experience, and we keep searching for true love. Let me tell you, every love is true love, because love just is. And there are many people out there who you can fall in love with. There are many people out there who are capable of being The One for you. Since, that is what you’re all looking for, right? Well, rest assured, you will find them. You will find them and you will be amazed at how perfect they are for you. And you will marry them and have kids and live happily ever after. And the best news is, if you happen to fuck it up, there is another person out there who is equally perfect for you, and you can try again. Or say you totally pass this person by, there will be another person. Or say you think that the timing is wrong, or the situation, or the place, well, that’s okay too. Because there will always be someone else, just as perfect for you, at a different time, in a different place, with a different situation. We make mistakes, we learn from them. Love is easy. We make it complicated. But that’s what we like about it. The complications make us appreciate what we can find in each other.

“So it’s up to you to decide, after you’ve found one of the many, many people who are perfect for you in the world, if you stay or if you move on, to find the next person who is perfect for you in the world. It’s okay to do both. It’s okay to go back on your word, to change your mind. It’s okay to never change your mind. It’s okay to feel awful, and to feel wonderful, at the same time. Remember, love is easy, you are complicated and it’s good to make mistakes.”