There are moments in the beginning of a relationship when all you’re trying to do is prove that you’re better than everyone that came before. In these moments you say things you don’t mean, you agree to things you wouldn’t normally, your values shift slightly to align with what you perceive to be the value system of your new and wonderful partner. And the whole time you’re pushing yourself into new habits and streams of consciousness, your partner is doing the same thing. Both of you slightly shifting away from who you are and what you’d known to become better versions of your past selves. Newer versions that remember to put the seat down and never put the empty milk carton back in the fridge. You are a person who now tries to understand when before you were stubborn. You now forgive when before you would sleep on the couch. And so we are. We are better than everyone that came before. There could be a “however” here, some sort of afterthought that explains we’re only better until…but you told me you’re an optimist.

There are moments in the beginning of a relationship when all you’re trying to do is prove that you’re better than everyone that came before. In these moments you say things you don’t mean, you agree to things you wouldn’t normally, your values shift slightly to align with what you perceive to be the value system of your new and wonderful partner. And the whole time you’re pushing yourself into new habits and streams of consciousness, your partner is doing the same thing. Both of you slightly shifting away from who you are and what you’d known to become better versions of your past selves. Newer versions that remember to put the seat down and never put the empty milk carton back in the fridge. You are a person who now tries to understand when before you were stubborn. You now forgive when before you would sleep on the couch. And so we are. We are better than everyone that came before. There could be a “however” here, some sort of afterthought that explains we’re only better until…but you told me you’re an optimist.