Hello there. So I’ve been following you (on here of course lol) for quite some time now. And I’ve never actually paid much attention to the content of your blog. And this will probably end up being a rant that doesn’t make sense because I don’t know exactly how to say what I want to say…or what I want to say for that matter lol.
Your blog is definitely interesting. I think it’s awesome that you’re comfortable in your own body and that you love it. Typically, I don’t approve of people who post “nudes” at all. I just don’t agree with it under any circumstances. But with your pictures, while I still don’t approve, when I see them, I don’t think like “Oh my gosh, she’s such a slut or this is so trashy blah blah blah.” I guess I don’t see your pictures as “nudes” in the sense that I don’t see them as just naked pictures of yourself looking hot to get people to think you’re hot. Like I don’t see them as slutty or pornographical (is that a word?). There’s also I guess an essence of mystery in your pictures where you’re not just showing everyone everything all at once. To me, it’s kind of like you pose and portray the picture in a certain way so that some aspects are shown more than others.
I don’t know. I find it intriguing. I don’t really approve of it, and I certainly would never do it, but at the same time, I don’t think it’s necessarily wrong. I also love how you’re a real woman. You’re not like a sack of bones where we can see your ribs and every single bone in your body. You’re real, and it’s good to promote that being super skinny isn’t the only way to be pretty.
I have some questions for you. How long have you been doing this for? Were your parents and coworkers and everyone close to you immediately accepting of it or were they skeptical at first? How do you feel about younger girls (around 15-17) doing this? How does your husband feel about it?
Thanks. (: <3
This is the best fucking message ever! First it’s like, “oh yes, I’ve been following you for a long time, however, I never paid any attention to your blog, tee hee! Now I’m going to slut-shame a little, but I’m not saying YOU’RE a slut! That would be RUDE!”
I mean, most of the time I have a lot of patience for the potential with this sort of discourse, because a lot of people are unaware of what they’re saying; they think they’re giving a compliment instead of an insult. Young women are often like, “Sluts are bad because boys don’t want to have sex with them! It’s the best insult, right?! And I love to insult other women by making them undesirable to men!* Gee, this whole patriarchal society that is continually fucking me and my friends up really works so WELL!” And I see this, and usually I take the time to explain that no, just because a woman chooses to be naked on the internet, or have sex with any number of people, or work in sex, or whatever else you disapprove of, these things do not make her a bad person. These things are not a reflection on her intelligence, or her quality of character, or her emotional depth. These things are choices she made about her own life and her own body and they’re none of your business. Usually, that’s what I try to say, in as nice a way as possible.
But not today.
What’s that you say? You think I should keep my naked body and my personal life off the internet? Bad idea, right? You think it’s gonna ruin my life, ruin future opportunities, ruin my career, ruin my relationships? You disapprove of my life choices? You think what I’m doing is wrong?
Fuck you, dude, I do what I want. No one said you had to keep coming around here. Around here, we’re having a great time with our dicks out, watching Star Trek DVDs, and eating pizza and it’s delicious. You can have some if you want, but you gotta let people be who they are. You do you and accept that I’ll do me and we’ll get along just fine.
I’m not a fucking mystery. I’m a woman posting her tits and ass on the internet and I am SO MUCH MORE THAN THAT.
Girl, I am a slut. And I want to be slutty till I die. I’m going to be slutty and interesting and intriguing forever, so you can keep following me until we both die!
And of course I’m a real woman. Because every person who chooses to identify as a woman is a real woman. I am no less of a woman now than I was when I weighed 30 pounds less. I was no less of a woman when you could see my ribs and was super skinny. And that woman with the dick is no less of a woman than I am. And that woman with the bitchin’ moustache is no less of a woman that I am. And that woman who weighs 300 pounds is no less of a woman than I am. All these fucking ladies all over the fucking place are real. Can we acknowledge that, already? And spread it far and wide (like I spread my legs for YOUR MOM)?
I’ve been posting naked pictures of myself on the internet for over ten years. My mother is still proud of me and my father still loves me. I’m still the best sister to my brother and the best aunt to my niece. My grandma still laughs at my jokes and has a picture I took of myself on her wall. My co-workers still respect me and my students still give me good evaluations and show up to my class on time and ready to learn. I still get A+ in courses I take. My husband loves and supports me and knows I do what I want and that’s one of the reasons why he loves me. If he didn’t feel that way, we wouldn’t be married. Shit, if people don’t like what I do, they don’t have to look at it. They don’t have to be here. They don’t have to talk to me. I’ll be just fine without them.
But, okay, okay. I think what this person was trying to say in this message, was that she thinks I’m really good at what I do. She was trying to say that I’m a really good model and photographer but it came out as ignorant and pushy slut-shaming. So thank you. I appreciated your message. I really did, because this was fun to write. I hope you read it and are like, “Damn! I guess I shouldn’t be going around pushing my morals onto other people’s bodies. Just because something isn’t right for me, doesn’t mean it doesn’t work flawlessly for others.”
(And girls aged 15-17 should be aware of the laws wherever they are located and make sure they’re not breaking any of them because in many places posting naked pictures of yourself online when you’re that age can be considered child pornography. Just always be aware of what you’re doing and make sure you’re doing it for yourself because you want to. If you want to post your tits on the internet to get a boy’s attention, that’s fine. He better appreciate it though and you should be okay with it if he doesn’t. And you gotta be okay with that picture of your tits being seen by everyone you know. If you’re okay with that, and you’re not breaking any laws, and you’re confident in your actions and your choices, then fucking do it. Even if later you come to the decision it was a mistake, own that mistake and appreciate that mistake. Your integrity and your morals are not connected to that one picture of your tits on the internet. You’re still perfect. Fuck the haters.)
(*I just wrote a long rambling thing about this but I’ll save it for a different post.)